New shoes mean allot to us. It’s not simple. Being a child child with Autism and with sensory challenges is not easy by any means. The shoes have to look exactly like the previous pair because the visual change (in look of shoes) is too much to visually process. The new shoes have to feel the same and of course they are not worn in. So they don’t! I need the kid to wear his shoes to protect his feet from weather conditions. The kid needs to wear his shoes. Shoes we have bought have always been Velcro shoes instead of laces for ease. Some time in the fit of these last pair of shoes Stephen has decided that he will not undo the velcro, (which means putting strain on the design of the shoe and increase to its eventual demise) but slip them on and off such as in slip on shoes. If anyone even tried to undo the velcro of his shoes the result will be that the kid will get upset. And very loud!
Why will he get upset? Because (whoever it is will be changing the internal environment of his shoe). In other words: pressure of shoe on foot will be different. The brand spanking new shoes are lovely and leather and all of $80 which is expensive to us one our budget. They are brand new and do not have the give or flexibility of the old worn in ones. Stephen tried to slip the new pair on. It’s too hard.
The growing foot needs new size shoes at different times. I know there will be an element of discomfort for him in coming to terms with his new shoes. I am bracing myself for the eventual marriage of foot to the internals of the new shoes. It will be a time of transition. I think perhaps trying new shoes on, and wearing them 10 minutes every day for a period of a few months until we have realised the entropic nature occurring with the old shoes. We will have to “ride the new shoes “in”. Riding around the coral enough times to “break in” the new shoes making them submissive and lenient to us. Kick them around bit and soften them up. It will be a struggle to accept the new conditions but will slowly and hopefully mellow into acceptance and comfortability. Is it the right fit. I mean is the sensory experience of the foot in the shoe: just the right pressure. And adjusting the shoe to the right tightness around his foot. Wait I think I need to meditate on that one a little, its all so very zen. Essentially a marriage. It may not be perfect but hopefully it may be ok, he may grow eventually to love his shoes. We live in hope!
What do “they” say about shoes? Some say “Just throw the old shoes away!”! He will have to get used to it. I know there will be loud protestations about that from the young person in question if we so that. I think he loves his old shoes that don’t fit anymore and now have holes in them. It is raining and the old shoe’s have holes in them. Result: wet socks.
Where’s my Nanna’s old sayings! She always had a witty retort to counter harsh words. I need those words to stoke me up now. To get my spirit heated up like the coals in a fire, to give me warmth in this freezing winter.
Written and Authorised by Jane Muras, 4 Henry st, Hectorville, SA 5073 Candidate for Hectorville Ward CCC 2018