Autism Car troubles and laughter

It’s raining yet again.  Just as I am due to do the school pickup after a lovely swim and the electrics in my car have given up the ghost! I can’t open the door! It’s raining! Great! This is just great . Thankyou Murphy! It’s Murphy’s Law. This Law is one I am well aquainted with. Why? I’m going to listen to some comedy! Suddenly Nanna drives by with her key. Saved by the bell!

 

 

Autism-Comedy radio, Laughing and walking to school

Relief! I feel like we have struck a gold mine. After years of struggling to get the child to get dressed in morn. Get him fed and out door to school it turns out walking the 2 km to school is no sweat and even enjoyable. Kiddo wants to do it!!

To help him dress this morn I turn the music on, no heavy rock, R&B rules!  I remember last year when we trialled a family comedy station on Pandora which the whole family found extremely funny. Laughing is infectious we donned our earplugs, mum and son arm in arm and walked and laughed all the way to school. Very cool!

 

 

Autism Mum, stay still. I am putting a chip up your nose!

“Why, are you putting a chip up my nose, son!” Son says  “I just want to tickle your nose!” We had a good walk at the Zoo. The next day and It’s time for a family walk as I am tired of hearing/explaining to kiddo why I will not let him play an MA rated game called “Rainbow Six Siege “.

This is a tad ironic that he wants to play military mayhem games as both boys are adamant they don’t want to grow up and I suppose take on the personae of Peter Pan. But the 9 yr old wants to play games that are not suitable for his age.

I had a brainwave about it this morning and suggested we make it real by making it real in building Lego scene/ or Maake up a Rock and Roll song about it because he has been raising his voice about it as if constantly repeating to his parents he wants it then it will happen. Is ABA therapy in reverse? Lol. Oh dear! For goodness sakes!

What I did notice is that he has worked out how to write “Rainbow Six Siege” in the dirt, on the dining table- this kid can do stuff when he puts a high value on the outcome so I think my modus operandi a will be getting him to write a whole page of game titles that he really loves! Wish me luck?

 

 

Autism-The 5 yr old

Quiet and lovely. Very smart and listens to everything. Likes to repeat his brothers sayings. Loves supporting whatever his brother says to do. Rubs his legs together all the time. He seems to need to do that. When the two of them start up then you can’t shut them up because they spark off one another talking computer games which are not allowed as ratings are too high. Some years ago it was “Five Nights at Freddy’s” then “Marketpliar” then something else and most recently it’s Tom Clancy’s “Rainbow Six Siege”.

I think they like to hear the repetition of words. And I think they like to hear Mumkeeping the boundaries ” No, you can’t do that Blablabla”.

The five year old is more flexible.

 

 

Autism and Let’s take our computer controller to theatre class! 

He came home last week and was having fun with his brother playing games he learnt. But this week was a struggle getting him here. My sons worldview is that he is waisting valuable time where he could be playing computer games. Let’s take our computer  controller to drama class.

A sleepover at a friends house last night has meant that his sensory experience of his clothes is different today. He seemed fine with it today when dropped at school with friend but anxiety took over/stomach ache and not feeling well meant he could not stay at school. He could not go on school excursion.

Tummy bug going around school so give him the benefit of the doubt. Chuck a sicky! The only thing to do, right! So we feel OK by end of day so as soon as we go out the door to drama the anxiety starts/ Hyper sensitivity to clothing. He’s managed to try the theatre class and is playing theatre games. Phewwww! He’s engaged after some resistance. Time to read !

I think they are enjoying themselves in class yelling loudly which is right up NO. 2 Kiddo’s alley!

 

 

Autism – How did this kid learn to read so early?

I remember spelling signs out as they sounds we walked along on the daily walks. I asked him to repeat the words.

Hubby thinks that the letters on the page became characters “with a life of their own”. My 9 year old can read from the word go but my 5 year old is having challenges in this area. Both Autistic. Both very different. It’s all to hard for the 5 year old.

The 5 yr old finds It difficult to concentrate as there is too many variables to distract attention away from putting two or three letters together (segmentation and phonics). What is the key to undo this lock???

I put the visual representation of awards/certificates on the wall to show these visual learners they can do it!

 

 

Autism and a 2 km walk to school try out!

Waking up and full of boundless hope and enthusiasm at the benefits of a 2 km walk. It works. It satisfies this 9 yr old pacer.  It was a light beaming from the light house that happens occasionally when one is muddling through the stressful darkness of daily life. By the way, it’s not a punishment for not getting in car by 8.30 am.

This afternoon I’ve been pipped at the post by his SOS.  When I asked school support teacher curiously if walking made a difference before school, and during the school day. She shrugged like she wasn’t sure! I thought it was sure as eggs I had done the best thing since sliced bread.

I walked my son and my dog, the 2 kms to school today and when they got to school the jitterbugs and lack of concentration was all walked out. Both boys had used up energy and sat down to engage in the class when they got there. I’m stoked! Your’e thinking: Well, How obvious is that!
What was amazing to me was that he wanted to do this! Even  comfortable doing this. This is bribe currency in the making. Why oh why by did I not continue taking kiddo to little Athletics some years ago! Was it a Sunday morn sleeping! Oh dear! How to work it?I am just tired now.

The 9 yr old had done the walk quite a few times with Dad, but it was my first time walking that distance to school (it’s usually the case that he hates going to school/leaving the house/ lots of stress) with the 9 yr old.

At the last minute the 5 yr old decides  he wants to come too. So we do (!) cause movement rules and it’s non digital! Of course we are late to school but the cost/benefit ratio favours life skill learning from observation of unspoken rules/crossing road at lights/ building construction etc.

5 yr old can walk no more after 1 km and who arrives just on time as its super dad with his super timing. Drives us the rest of the way to school.

Dad:  It took me so long to get here because I could not find you guys and I couldn’t find my keys. !!!

 

 

Autism and SensoryProcessingDisorder with socks!

Having issues with socks: I recommend only giving a choice of two spare socks in bag or else its overwhelming/too many choices and heading towards meltdown territory.

Pick your battles

Mum: “Put your socks on!”

Son: “I can’t, they don’t feel right!”

Mum: “Ok, well you can get another pair of socks from your room.”

Kiddo: “No I can’t.”

Mum: “Why.”

Kiddo: “Because the others don’t feel right

Mum.” What to do in this situation?  I have to get this kid to school (or so methinks). When he finally decides to put a pair of socks on,

Kiddo says “Mum, which sock is for the left foot and which sock is for the right foot?”

Mum: Oh for Goodness sakes! Are you kidding with me? (for want of a better word!)  “Honey you have 20 pairs of socks and they are all exactly the same.”

Kiddo:”No, they aren’t Mum! I know my socks!” , can we make friends with the two black socks, and give them names.  (I remember my Nanna saying, “You would not read about it!” and I can’t help smiling because the socks just got animated in my brain, the socks have the power to  make my child’s life  suck! You wouldn’t read about it!)

😄 I love you son. (To me  they are 20 pairs of exactly the same socks but little do I know  that the fibres in these socks, do these socks have names?  How do you tell which sock is  the left and right sock  if both saocks are black, the answer is ……Drum roll please! and this is a son has a self regulated solution!

One black sock is slightly longer than the other! Tadaaaaa!

Who would of thought because I thought the difference was how worn out and tired the socks were and that is how you could work out which pair of sock actually were the one’s that felt right !

They were also the only socks that could be worn for all eternity!

 

 

 

Autism and Murphy’s Law: Today, it’s “one of those days” !

Popping disco music on and disco/rap dancing while getting dressed is fun and helps them get ready for school. Let’s dance as we forget about sensory.

So today it’s “one of those days!” Where according to best intentions it’s just not going to happen. The too hard basket is the bracket category for today! Is it because it is Monday?

I thought, you know what: My son’s socks are no big deal, we can deal with this!

It’s no biggy for us! Son: Mum I can’t get up without my Sustagem Dutch choc milk before I put my socks on! Mum and Dad: There is no choc. Oh no! The thought of going down shop 7.30 am not appealing to us. Thinking ahead is what I do to plan day or I do try! There is nothing for it – it’s plain as day, so with a spring in my stride I’m heading down shops to get kid to school and save a meltdown!
We will just get to school when we can, so then school drop off/Walked dog/ off to gym to swim/ have an assessment for gym which is cut short because relization that there is a time clash with another appointment. When we finish the swim and to top it off, it’s raining and my slightly dodgy electronic lock in car, which has seen better days, has just doesn’t work! I can’t open car door!

The appointment.

It’s not happening.

You have to laugh!!!

Today!